Seeking Halāl Employment: The Challenge of Video Interviews
Question:
I am a revert sister. My family currently practises siḥr and uses it to seek revenge, amongst other things. I have been trying to get married since 2024 but thus far have not had success. My family is not able to support me financially so I need to find a means of supporting myself. Relying on zakāh until I'm able to get married does not seem to…
Ruling on Carrying a Child During Prayer While the Nappy Contains Impurity
Question:
A sister says: Sometimes I carry my daughter during prayer because she cries intensely. She is wearing a nappy, and she has already urinated in it. What is the ruling on my prayer and on carrying her during prayer in this situation? May Allah reward you.
Sheikh Ibn Baz rahimahullah:
If the nappy contains impurity, then do not carry her. If there is impurity on her, do not carry her. However, if she is…
Carrying a Nappy-Wearing Child in Prayer
Question:
Is it permissible to carry a child during prayer knowing that the child is wearing a nappy?
Sheikh Uthaymin rahimahullah:
If we know that the nappy contains impurity (najāsah), then it is not permissible to carry the child, because when the Prophet ﷺ was informed by Jibrīl that there was something impure on his sandals, he removed them.
However, if we do not…
Dealing with someone who constantly positions themselves as the victim (whether fairly or not) is less about “winning” and more about not getting pulled into their narrative. The main risk is that you get dragged into defending yourself endlessly or start accepting guilt that isn’t yours.
Here are practical ways to handle it:
1⃣. Don’t argue the entire story
A “professional victim” often reframes events to centre…
1⃣. Avoid debating every detail
If you go point-by-point correcting them, you often end up trapped in a loop where the focus shifts from truth to emotion.
Don’t expect logical resolution from an emotional narrative.
2⃣. Don’t over-apologise to “calm things down”
Over-apologising just to end tension can reinforce their pattern.
It signals that emotional pressure = control.
3⃣. Don’t take responsibility for…
“I don’t want an apology, I want you to suffer enough that I feel better.”
“I keep a mental archive of every time you hurt me, but somehow forget every time I hurt you.”
“My pain is my favourite weapon. If I can convince everyone I’m the victim, nobody will ask what I did.”
“I don’t forgive people — I collect their mistakes and bring them back whenever I need control.”
“I can insult you, betray you, and cross…
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Is a Woman Required to Accept Wedding Invitations?
Question:
Is it obligatory for women to accept wedding invitations? I read that whoever does not accept an invitation has disobeyed Allah and His Messenger ﷺ, or something similar to that. This is especially regarding invitations to weddings of relatives or friends. However, there will be some wrong things taking place at the wedding, and if we do not attend, it…
For example, if a woman believes that gold jewellery must have zakah paid on it, while her husband does not believe this, and he tells her not to pay zakah on her jewellery, she must still pay it. She
Likewise, if a woman does not believe a certain act is recommended, but her husband believes it is recommended, she does not have to do that act as a form of worship simply because he wants her to or to please him. Acts of worship require evidence from the Shariah.
However, a woman should be wise. She should not openly challenge her husband over matters where she is not required to obey him. If she disagrees, she…
To What Extent Is a Wife Required to Obey Her Husband?
Enquiry:
My wife uses social media and shamelessly displays her name on her profile picture. I’ve asked her several times to change it to something more discreet, as I’m concerned about protecting her from fitnah and also to ease my ghayrah. Her name is quite unique, so I’m uncomfortable with her identifying herself publicly on open platforms. However, she…
A sister writes:
I‘m an Arab woman who married a German convert at the age of 18. My family is not religious so they didn’t care about the ethnicity of my spouse. I grew up in the west and I’m not so much in touch with my culture or my language, since it has never been taught to me.
Another thing is, a lot of people in my family and ethnic group have some non Islamic views that influence and also hurt people’s…
A sister writes:
When I say “a brother from back home,” I want to clarify what I mean. Technically, I am a Westerner, an African American woman born and raised in America. I am also currently married to a West African, specifically a Gambian.
For me, choosing a brother from “back home” was not about romanticizing another culture or believing one group of people is perfect. It came from my own lived experiences and…
A sister writes:
قال النبي ﷺ: ((فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداك‏))
“Seek the one with deen, may your hands be in the dust if you fail to do so.”
He did not say the one from back home.
It was never made a condition for righteousness.
قال الله تعالى في سورة الحجرات: {إن أكرمكم عند الله أتقاكم}
“Verily, the most honourable of you with Allah is that (believer) who has At-Taqwa [i.e. one of the Muttaqun]”
A…
The Difference Between Khalwah and Travelling Without a Maḥram
Sheikh Uthaymin rahimahullah said:
All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, his Companions, and those who follow them in goodness until the Day of Judgement.
A woman does not become a maḥram for another woman, but having another woman with her does remove the situation of khalwah…
Emotional Challenges Faced by a Second Wife in Polygyny
Enquiry:
What are your thoughts on this statement: "In polygyny, the second wife serves as a correctional tool, the moment the first wife acts the way the husband desires, she is abandoned."?
Response:
The statement appears to be driven more by emotion than by reality. It mixes a partial truth with a harmful and unjust generalisation, and it needs to be…
Marriage Without Consummation
Enquiry:
I was wondering if there is a time limit for consummating marriage. If a couple has not had sexual intercourse yet (but both are happy) and may have been married for over a year, does this affect any rulings?
Response:
There is no fixed time limit in Shariah for when a marriage must be consummated. So if a husband and wife delay intercourse after marriage, the marriage itself…
Can a Wife Refuse Intimacy Due to Emotional Harm?
Enquiry:
Can a wife refuse intimacy if she is experiencing emotional harm because of the way her husband treats her during intimacy?
Advice:
The husband may be sinful for how he’s approaching her.
The hadith commanding obedience with marital rights isn’t unconditional - the curse applies when the wife has no valid excuse.…
Preparing for Marriage in a Hypersexualised Society
I remember it as though it were yesterday. During one of the general lessons in Dammaj, someone sent a note to Sheikh Yaḥyā requesting that he begin teaching Tuḥfat Al-ʿArūs—a comprehensive guide covering matters related to marriage, including the rights of spouses and marital relations.
The Sheikh's response regarding studying the finer details of marital…
Marry a woman who will wash your dirty laundry, not one who will hang it in the marketplace for everyone to see.
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