I would advise her to not focus on her husbands faults or shortcomings. No one is perfect, including the man she marries, and herself. She should overlook anything that isn't major or needs to be addressed, and focus instead on fulfilling her own obligations, for she will not be held accountable for his mistakes or shortcomings, but she will be held accountable for her own.
And true ḥusnul-khuluq is in overlooking,…
Marriage is a test of patience, adab, and how we understand rights and roles. At times, you may feel irritation when expectations are unmet, but the believer returns to the boundaries Allāh.
Rights in shariah are not based on emotion or comparison. The husband’s right is a divine right established by Allāh, like the great right of the mother, and is not based on emotion or expectations, but is to be upheld and…
My brief advice would be for both the husband and wife to make expectations and pet peeves very clear early on. Come to a mutual understanding, then strive to fulfill each other's expectations بالمعروف. Likewise, avoid each other's pet peeves to the best of your ability, and this will in shaa Allah keep frustration, resentment, and upsetness at bay, and invite mutual love, respect and happiness.
Her energy fluctuates. Her sleep is disturbed. Tasks that were once effortless become difficult. Her emotions may become more intense, her anxieties more pronounced, and her sense of vulnerability gre
What makes this even more difficult is that these struggles are often hidden. A broken bone receives sympathy because people can see it. A visible wound receives concern because people can identify it. Pregnancy, however, frequently requires a woman to carry burdens that are largely invisible to those around her. As a result, she may find herself expected to continue functioning as though nothing has changed,…
Pregnancy in women should never be trivialized as something ordinary simply because it is common, nor should women be guilt-tripped into silence with phrases such as, “Be patient,” “Women have always gone through this,” or, “You’ll be rewarded for it.” The fact that something has occurred throughout human history does not make it any less significant, just as the fact that something is natural does not make it any…
I am looking for a sister who has taqwa of Allah ﷻ and is sincere in her commitment to her deen, striving to fulfil her obligations in worship with consistency and devotion. I deeply admire modesty, and I am especially drawn to a sister who observes the niqab and carries herself with dignity and sincerity for the sake of Allah ﷻ.
I value a marriage rooted in Islamic principles, mutual respect, and understanding. My…
#Support_Line
On occasion, I may use this platform to assist trusted brothers in their search for marriage. While this may not be the primary route to marriage, it serves as a support line for ikhwah.
Why are you doing this?
{كذلك كنتم من قبل فمن الله عليكم}
I was once in that position myself and understand how it feels, so if I am able to help my brothers in any way, I am happy to offer my assistance.
How it…
Beware of wearing clothes that have a cross on them!
عن عَائِشَةَ رضى الله عنها أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ لَمْ يَكُنْ يَتْرُكُ فِي بَيْتِهِ شَيْئًا فِيهِ تَصَالِيبُ إِلاَّ نَقَضَهُ.
A'ishah (may Allāh be pleased with her) reported that the Prophet ﷺ would not leave in his house anything containing crosses except that he obliterated it. [Sahih Bukhari - 5952]
❓Question:
A sister, over the years had been careless during Ramadan and has intentionally broken fasts during Ramadan, the number of which she had not tracked down.
In this case, what is to be done?
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She Did Not Receive the Divorce Message Because She Blocked Him: Does the Divorce Count?
Enquiry:
A brother divorced his wife by sending her a WhatsApp message. Two months later, when she was asked about it, she said she was unaware of the divorce because she had blocked him. Does the divorce count? If it does, when does the waiting period (iddah) begin?
Response:
It is obligatory to inform the wife of the…
The Ruling on Informing the Wife About Her Divorce
Question:
A preacher said during a Friday khutbah: “The husband should not tell his wife that he has divorced her.” Is this ruling correct, and does it have evidence from the Qur’an and Sunnah?
Sheikh Ibn Baz rahimahullah:
The wife must be informed of the divorce so that she knows whether she is divorced or not. If a man divorces her, he must let her know about…
Is a Divorce Valid If the Wife Is Not Told?
Question:
A man has been away from his wife for a long time, and he divorced her privately (only in his own mind/without telling her). Does the divorce take effect?
Sheikh Uthaymin rahimahullah:
The divorce takes effect even if the wife is not informed. If a person verbally pronounces the divorce and says, ‘I have divorced my wife,’ then the wife is divorced whether she…
A man asked a Bedouin: “What do you think about marriage?”
The Bedouin replied: “It's like a watermelon!”
The man asked, surprised: “How so?”
The Bedouin said: “You don't know whether it's sweet or bitter until you open it!”
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Reconciliation May Be Better Than Separation Even When Some Rights Are Given Up
Question:
Allah’s statement: “And reconciliation is better” — in the context of reconciliation between spouses. If a reconciliation happens where the wife gives up her right to financial support (or part of it), or gives up some of her rights in the marriage, and she is harmed by doing so, how can this be better than divorce if she has…
وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته.
These actions mentioned in the question need to be controlled and properly regulated. Sometimes there are greater general benefits, and there are also personal interests. The point that arises here is: personal interests should not be allowed to affect the wider public interests.
If a da‘ee has had a disagreement with someone regarding certain matters, then do not allow your…
Allah Almighty said in His Noble Book describing the righteous: {And those who, when they commit an immorality or wrong themselves, remember Allah and seek forgiveness for their sins — and who forgive
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Then if they obey you, do not seek a way against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Most High, Most Great. }Nushuz (ill-conduct) can also come from the husband, and the solution in that case, as Allah Almigh
Handling Claims of Oppression and Preventing Division Within the Community
Question:
I would like some advice regarding an issue that has become ongoing within our community. There are individuals who claim to have been wronged or oppressed by their husband(s) who are students of knowledge or teachers. As a result, whenever those teachers are invited to teach, give reminders, or speak in the masjid, these…
