Pornography
Email correspondence:
“Assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakaatuhu, please, someone really needs help. There is a boy who was trying in practicing Islaam. But as time goes, he fell short in issues regarding FAHSHAA (probably during his time of weakness). He found himself watching pornographic videos and pictures online. Anytime he does it he always do Tawbah. But he could not hold back himself from…
Issuing Divorce Jokingly
What is the ruling regarding me saying to my wife that she is divorced jokingly with laughter?
Shaykh Fawzān حفظه الله Answered:
“There is no joking or laughing when it comes to the divorce. Its joking is seriousness, as the Prophet ﷺ said. If you jokingly tell her that she is divorced, she is divorced.”
[alfawzan.af.org.sa/node/13728]
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Prioritising Islamic teachings
Sheikh Muqbil ibn Hādi Al-Wādi'ē rahimahullah said:
“It is obligatory for a woman to educate her children with Islamic teachings.”
[Tuhfah Al-Mujeeb, 1/339]
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Always rely on Allah
Shaykh Ibn Al-Uthaymeen rahimahullah said:
“We say to a person: Rely on yourself when it comes to people. Do not ask them for anything and do not lower yourself in front of them. And make sure you are not in need of them as much as you are able to. But when it comes to Allah, do not be self-sufficient! But always keep (asking Him and) depending on Him until things become easier for you.”…
How scholars are produced
Imām Aḥmad's mother (صفية بنت ميمونة بنت عبدالملك) made him memorise the Qur'an when he was only ten years old. She used to wake him up before Fajr Ṣalāh and would heat up water for his wudu in the cold nights of Baghdad. Then, after dressing him up, she would cover herself fully in her hijab and go with him to the masjid as it was far away from their house and the way to the masjid was…
Shyness of Imām Mālik's daughter
Imam Malik had a daughter named Fātimah — who had memorised all his knowledge.
She used to stand concealed behind the door and attend his classes. If a student made a mistake she would knock on the door to draw her father’s attention to it and Imām Mālik would understand the indication and correct the error of the reader.
[Al-Qāḍhi ’Iyyād, Tarteeb Al-Madārik, 1/109, Narration…
Why don't women have the right to issue divorce?
Shaykh Muqbil al-Wādi'ē rahimahullah said:
“If Allāh had placed divorce in the hand of the woman, she would have surely divorced her husband more than twenty times in a day due to the deficiency in her intellect. However, it is from the grace of Allāh, The Mighty and The Majestic, that He has placed custodianship in the hand of the man.”
[Fawā'id Min Durūs Abī…
Show mercy and you will be shown mercy
Shaikh Uthaimeen rahimahullah said:
“The more merciful someone is towards others, the more merciful Allāh will be to him—because you reap what you sow—so if a person finds that he is hardhearted towards Allāh’s believing servants then he must cure that disease. One of the ways for a person’s heart to become soft towards Allāh’s servants is for him to be gentle with children…
Seeking ‘Ilm and Motherhood
Maryam bint ‘Abdul Qadir rahimahullah was a copywriter (ناسخة).
Women would take on the work of scribing religious books and the Quran alongside men. (please take note that this does not mean free mixing, it means doing the same work as men in terms of scribing religious knowledge)
She is said to be one of the ’Ālimāt (women scholars) of the 6th Century after Hijri.
She worked on…
A Foul Woman
’Umar ibn Al-Khaṭṭāb رضي الله عنه said:
“‎The foulest of women is As-salfā’. (As-salfā’ is the immodest woman who mixes with men and is not shy from them).”
[Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaybah, 3/325]
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Remaining at home
Allāh ﷻ said:
﴿وَقَرۡنَ فِی بُیُوتِكُنَّ وَلَا تَبَرَّجۡنَ تَبَرُّجَ ٱلۡجَـٰهِلِیَّةِ ٱلۡأُولَىٰ﴾
“And stay in your homes; and do not display yourselves like in the former days of ignorance." [Sūrah Al-Aḥzāb: 33]
The meaning of this Āyah is the command to stay in the house. Although it’s addressed to the wives of the Prophet ﷺ, all other women are included.
Shari‘ah is filled with evidence…
Every Mother Is A Da’ee
Sheikh ‘Uthaymeen rahimahullah said:
“A woman first and foremost needs to be righteous herself, so that she can be a good example for her daughters…
A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future. In the earliest stages of their development, it is the mothers that human beings learn from. If she is a good mother, good in her manners…
This is why they target our women
Shaykh Ṣāliḥ al-Fawzān حفظه الله said:
“When the woman is weak, the house is weak. When the house is weak, the children are weak. When the houses are weak, the society is weak.”
[Muḥāḍarāt fīl ʿAqīdah wad Daʿwah | Page 162]
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Mother's Duty
Shaykh Sālih Al-Fawzān حفظه اللّٰه said:
“The duty of the mother in raising the child is not an easy job. Rather, it is a job that requires knowledge and it requires effort, in order to be consistent.”
[A woman's guide to raising a family, pg. 53]
He also said حفظه الله:
Women are the nurturers, fosterers, rearers, educators, and cultivators for the men [for that which they produce with them…
Scaring children
Sheikh Al-`Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
“Some of the foolish, ignorant people, lacking intelligence, scare their small innocent children and frighten them by saying: so-and-so will come (and take you), or so-and-so will (do such-and-such to you). So the child gets scared and this fear and anxiety remains in his heart, and this becomes permanent in his heart so that he is constantly in anxiety, fear…
Truth is judged on evidence - not eloquence
Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baz rahimahullāh:
“Indeed an abundance of speech and eloquence are not evidence of the truth, rather evidence of the truth is what Allaah said and what His Messenger ﷺ said.”
[Majmoo al-Fatawa, vol. 6, pg. 223]
Sheikh al-Albani rahimahullah said:
“‎The person who is seeking the truth, one evidence will be enough for him. A person who is…
Working to get married
Ibn al-Jawzi rahimahullah writes:
Musa (عليه السلام) spent ten years of his blessed life to pay the dowry for the daughter of Shu‘ayb (عليه السلام).
Were it not that marriage is one of the best of things, the Prophets (عليهم السلام) would not have spent so much time on it (or have had so much patience upon it).
[Captured Thoughts, pg. 65]
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Underage marriages in this era
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen rahimahullah said:
“What appears to me is that from a disciplinary point of view of the present time, the father is to be absolutely stopped from marrying his daughter until she reaches puberty.
And she is to be asked for her permission (for marriage).
A lot of things happen, because they do not take into account the interest of the girl, rather they only take…
Happiness in marriage
Sheikh Uthaymeen rahimahullah said:
“Happiness in marriage will not be attained through harshness or by controlling (one’s wife). Verily, this is a mistake.
Rather, it is obligatory upon the husband to look at his wife as his companion, the mother of his children, and the caretaker of the house. And he should respect her the way he would love her to respect him.”
[Noor ‘alaa ad-Darb,…
Don't delay marriage
Imām Ibn Bāz rahimahullāh said:
“That which I advise all the young women with is: agreement whenever a suitable man comes for them, and to not make the excuse of studying or teaching (or age, or time) or other than that (to delay marriage).”
[Majmū’ al-Fatāwā Ibn Bāz (rahimahullāh), 20/414]
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Marriage is not merely for sexual gratification
Shaykh Muhammad Amaan Ibn Ali Al-Jaami rahimahullah said:
“Those who think that the only purpose of marriage is to taste delight and pleasure whenever feasible and nothing else have obviously erred.
This kind of perception has badly ruined many of the youth and lead to ethical decline and deterioration.
As a result, many of the youth in many lands live their life…
When Looking for A Spouse, Look for Religion and Character
'Umar ibn al-Khaṭṭāb radhiyAllahu ‘anhu said:
“Marriage is slavery, so be careful with regards to whom you hand your daughters for enslavement.”
[Al-Fatāwa al-Kubrā, 3/148]
Shaikh Albani rahimahullah said:
“Just as the Messenger of Allah ﷺ has ordered the khātib (i.e., a man seeking a woman's hand in marriage) to look out for a righteous woman and not…
Tawheed of the fearful ones
Shaykh Ibn Bāz rahimahullah said to one of the students:
لِمَ لا تُعدَّد؟
“Why are you not practicing polygyny?”
The student replied:
يا شيخ، أنا موحَّد.
“Shaykh! I am upon Tawheed (in marriage)!
So the Shaykh (rahimahullah) said to him:
هذا توحيد الخائفين.
“This is the Tawheed of the fearful ones!”
[ الامام ابن باز دروس ومواقف وعبر- للسدحان - ص٧٣ ]
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The stigma of polygyny
We live in a time where polygyny is viewed as something strange, shameful, and even offensive.
Today, if a woman supports her husband in seeking a second, third, or fourth wife, people label her as naïve, delusional, or oppressed. And if a man expresses his wish to marry again, he’s often called disloyal, lustful, or accused of having an unsatisfied wife.
Yet, when a wife sincerely helps…
