Disrespectful wife afflicted with disrespectful children
Question: Is it true that many women who do not respect their husbands are afflicted with disrespect from their children?
Sheikh Abdulḥamīd Az-Zu'kari ḥafidhahullāh:
Allāh knows best; A WOMAN MAY INDEED BE TESTED IN THIS WAY or in other ways.
Obedience to the husband is obligatory as it aligns with obedience to Allah Almighty, and the husband has the…
A Heartfelt Message From A Former Anti-polygynist
When I was approaching my twenties, like any other girl, I dreamt of a pious, well-mannered young man. I built hopes and dreams about how we would live together and raise our children, and so on.
I used to be strongly opposed to polygyny. If I heard that a man married a second wife, I would, without realising it, curse him and say, "If I were in her place, I would…
A Woman's Charm
Imam Adh-Dhahabi rahimahullah mentioned that, one day the students of Imam Abdur-Razzaaq As-San’aani knocked on his door forcefully, so he came out to them in anger and said: “By Allah! I will not narrate to you for a month,” so they appealed to him through his neighbours, but he refused! Then, through his friends, but still he refused! So they came to his wife and gave her a gift and asked her to…
The Right Mindset Before Marriage Makes A Long-term Difference
«اشـتكى رجـل عند سفيان بن عيينة أنه تزوج امـرأة فـصار أذل الأشياء عنـدها و أحقـرها؛ أي أنَّها تذله، فقال سفـيان: لعلك رغبت إليـها لـتزداد عِـزًّا؟! قال: نعم، فقال سفـيان: من ذهـب إلى العز ابتلي بالـذل، ومن ذهـب إلى المال ابتلي بالفقـر، و من ذهب إلى الـدين يجمع الله له العز و المال مع الـدين».
A man complained to Sufyān ibn ‘Uyaynah that he married a woman and has since become the most humiliated and insignificant…
Marry someone according to what they are TODAY - NOT what you'd like them to become TOMORROW
Question: A man who does not pray has proposed to a committed (ملتزمة) young woman, and she has agreed to marry him, believing that she will be able to guide him towards righteousness by encouraging him to pray and adhere to religious duties. Is her decision correct and is it permissible for her to agree to this marriage?…
Women engaging in Jarh wa Ta'dil
Sheikh Muhammad Al 'Ansi ḥafidhahullāh says (paraphrasing):
- If this relates to a woman who is knowledgeable, well-versed, and understands the statements of the scholars, and is aware of the conditions of people, and she speaks based on what she knows, then her words are accepted from the angle of reporting (ikhbaar).
- The female companions, including the wives of the Prophet ﷺ…
Ruling On Four-Leaf Clover Van Cleef Jewellery
Answered by Abu Fajr AbdulFattaah ḥafidhahullāh
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"The infamous Four-leaf clover motifs first appeared in the Maison’s archives as of the 1920’s, the perfect symbol of good fortune including wooden talismans, charms and benevolent fairies, Van Cleef & Arpels jewellery became a sought after piece to own. In 1968, the Maison created the first Alhambra long necklace,…
- It is incumbent upon a Muslim, man or woman, to distinguish themself from imitating the disbelievers.
- Islam does not forbid what is lawful, but these sports—such as football, basketball, and similar sports—originated from the disbelievers. They invented and popularised them in order to distract themselves and others.
- These games often lead to neglecting the remembrance of Allah Almighty and are not…
Why having children is such a big deal
Ibnul Jawzi rahimahullah said:
ورُبَّ زَواجِ حَدثَ مِنهُ ولدٌ مِثلَ الشافعي وأحمدَ بن حنبل فكان خيرًا مِن عِبادة ألفِ سَنةٍ
"Perhaps from a marriage, a child is born like Ash-Shafi'i or Ahmad ibn Hanbal; and that is better than a thousand years of worship."
[تلبيس إبليس (٢٦٣)]
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BENEFIT 64: Seek Children Through Continuous Istighfaar
Question: All my children die at birth, and the doctors haven't found a cause. Every time I get pregnant, the pregnancy ends in still birth after nine months of pregnancy. Now I have no children, and they come out with chest deformities, but the doctors haven't found a cause.
Sheikh Abu 'Āṣim Hussein Al-'Asal
Since the doctors haven't found any cause, it is plausible that it could be due to magic, [jinn]…
Don't be a Haasid!
قيل للحسن البصري: أيحسد المؤمن أخاه؟ قال: لا أبا لك، أنسيت إخوة يوسف؟ وكان يقال: إذا أردت أن تسلم من الحاسد فعمّ عليه أمورك.
It was said to Al-Hasan Al-Basri: "Does a believer envy his brother?" He replied, "May you have no father! Have you forgotten the brothers of Yusuf?" It was also said, "If you want to be safe from an envious person, conceal your affairs from him."
ويقال: إذا أراد الله أن…
Ruling on Beating the Duff (tambourine)
Sheikh Khālid Ash-Shāriḥee ḥafidhahullāh said:
Beating the duff is not permissible at all times, but only at specific occasions as prescribed by the Sharī‘ah.
The evidences indicate the following women are allowed to beat the duff in the following occasions:
1. Days of 'Eid
2. Weddings
3. When receiving an absent one
Evidence for these occasions are as follows:
A. From…
When can a woman request khul’ (separation initiated by the wife)?
Sheikh Khalid Ash-Shāriḥee, may Allah preserve him, responded:
Firstly, it is not permissible for a woman to request a divorce unless there is a legitimate reason justifying her request for khul’ or divorce. Thawban (may Allāh be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
((أَيُّمَا امْرَأَةٍ سَأَلَتْ زَوْجَهَا طَلاقًا فِي…
Are women allowed to visit the graveyard?
Sheikh Muḥammad Al-Aflaḥi ḥafidhahullāh said:
The stronger opinion is that it is permissible, based on:
- General evidence, such as the saying of the Prophet ﷺ:
((كنت نهيتكم عن زيارة القبور فزوروها))
"I had previously forbidden you from visiting graves, but now visit them," and this applies to both men and women.
- Specific evidence, such as the hadith in Sahih Muslim…
Can a woman remove her clothes in a place other than her husband's house?
Sheikh Manṣoor Al-Majeedi ḥafidhahullāh said:
Regarding the hadith:
((أيما امرأة نزعت ثيابها في غير بيت زوجها فقد هتكت ما بينها وبين الله من ستر))
"Any woman who removes her clothes outside her husband's home has torn the veil between her and Allah," its meaning is: If she removes her clothes outside her husband's house with the intention…
Locking kids up to get some rest
Question: I am a married woman with many misbehaving kids. Is it permissible for me to bind their hands and feet, tape their mouths, and put them in another room so I can have some rest, or will I be sinful for doing this?
Sheikh Khalid Ash-Shāriḥee, may Allah preserve him, responds:
This kind of harshness towards the children will cause you regret later on. Be patient with them,…
A sister asks: If a woman dies without getting married, will she marry in paradise?
Sheikh 'Uthaymeen raḥimahullāh responded:
If she enters paradise—may Allāh bless you—then therein is everything the souls desire and the eyes delight in. If she reaches paradise, she will find every good thing therein. She may marry someone from the people of this world. Otherwise, there will be a surplus in paradise beyond those…
MARRIED & DIVORCED 7 TIMES (A REVERT SISTER'S STORY)🥀
I am a revert sister of 16 years alhamdulilah. I got married about 6 months after becoming Muslim and in hindsight I didn't know much about marriage and I had very little knowledge of Islam.
My first husband was very practising maashAllah. He was 4 years older than me and was very passionate about upholding the sunnah. But I found this really overwhelming at the time and we clashed alot. He was fed up with my…
Is it true that teaching women in the masjid is an innovation?
Sheikh Abdulhamīd Az-Zu'kari ḥafidhahullāh responded:
Firstly, when a new issue arises, a Muslim should refer to the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Messenger ﷺ and then judge it accordingly.
Women are included in the words of Allah the Almighty:
﴿ يَرْفَعِ اللهُ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا مِنكُمْ وَالَّذِينَ أُوتُوا الْعِلْمَ دَرَجَاتٍ﴾
"Allah will…
What is the ruling on women entering public baths/saunas?
Sheikh Abdulḥamīd Az-Zu'kari ḥafidhahullāh stated:
If there is no Khalwah with non-mahram men or exposure to them...and there is no fear of fitnah, then it is permissible - as long as there is no Tasweer or similar activities.
However, it is preferable to avoid it altogether, as there are narrations prohibiting women from entering (public) baths;…
